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Helen stresses that, ",[52,84,85],{},"Parents’ practical and emotional support to their children during this tumultuous time is vital. Where possible, make decisions together as a family. Parents should be open with children and acknowledge their feelings, particularly if a child is not in favor of the relocation. Don’t dismiss or diminish how significant this change is to your child. Younger children may not be fully aware of the broader issues but older children are very aware of the implications of moving, of what they are leaving behind and what lies ahead.",[48,87,88,89,91,92],{},"Helen introduces readers to our book, ",[52,90,62],{}," Lucinda elaborates that ",[52,93,94],{},"“the ideas in the book are based on the foundation that everyone’s needs are equally important and family members need to tune in to each other regularly to stay emotionally healthy.”",[48,96,97,98],{},"The article further identifies many practical tips for both parents and children and particularly settling children into school. 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It was a pleasure to be in the company of fellow scholars Guleraana Mir, John Barclay and Erin Sinogba and learn about their respective efforts with global families. Jody Tangredi, Scholarship Chair, did a stellar job organising our participation.",[48,135,136,144],{},[99,137,139],{"href":138},"\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2017\u002F04\u002FFIGTLucindaBarbara.jpg",[140,141],"img",{"alt":142,"src":143},"Barbara Menezes & Lucinda Willshire, Slurping Soup co-authors, meet up at FIGT 2017","\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2017\u002F04\u002FFIGTLucindaBarbara-534x400.jpg"," Barbara Menezes & Lucinda Willshire, Slurping Soup co-authors, meet up at F.I.G.T.  2017",[48,146,147,148,152],{},"I caught up with two of the co-authors of ",[99,149,151],{"href":150},"\u002F","http:\u002F\u002Fwww.slurpingsoup.com\u002F","  for third culture kids in transition. It has been six years since I saw my dear friend Barbara Menezes who attended our book signings although was not able to attend the conference this year. We received very positive feedback about how useful ‘Slurping Soup’ is as a family resource.  ",[48,154,155,162],{},[99,156,158],{"href":157},"\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2017\u002F04\u002FFullSizeRender.jpg",[140,159],{"alt":160,"src":161},"Slurping Soup co-author Maryam Afnan Ahmad presents at FIGT 2017","\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2017\u002F04\u002FFullSizeRender-370x400.jpg"," Slurping Soup co-author Maryam Afnan Ahmad presents at F.I.G.T. 2017",[48,164,165],{},"In addition, it was a delight to catch up with Maryam Afnan Ahmad and attend her thoughtful presentation on Muslim Expats. She is clearly a great asset to the F.I.G.T. organisation.",[48,167,168],{},"Naomi Hathaway’s presentation was inspiring. Last year  I joined her ‘I Am A Triangle’ Facebook group for those who have lived in various cultures but it did not occur to me that she would be at the F.I.G.T. conference so it was great to meet her in person and connect those dots.",[48,170,171],{},"I have worked as a family counsellor for more than 2 decades in global communities. In my recent presentations at family therapy conferences in the U.S.A. and Australia, my focus has been to raise awareness of serious problems for global families. This includes relationship breakdown and the practical and emotional impact; especially on women and children when this occurs outside the passport country. I am extremely proud my work has been acknowledged through the F.I.G.T. award.",[48,173,174],{},"And finally, at the conference, it was a privilege to meet Ruth Van Reken, founding Mum of F.I.G.T. She and other founders created a wonderful forum where global citizens can gather and share research in the field. 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"," Her presentation is important for expats and therapists as it \"aims to raise awareness of the emotional impact for traditional nuclear families living as expats\".",[48,229,230,233],{},[224,231,232],{},"Lucinda's presentation title:"," Emotional Underbelly of Expat Family Life for Male Breadwinners, Trailing Wives and Third Culture Kids.",[48,235,236,239,240,247],{},[224,237,238],{},"Lucinda's presentation abstract:  ","  Research and documented experience of expatriate ",[99,241,243],{"href":242},"\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2011\u002F04\u002FDSC05401.jpg",[140,244],{"alt":245,"src":246},"Lucinda signing books!","\u002Fwp-content\u002Fuploads\u002F2011\u002F04\u002FDSC05401-300x400.jpg","family life is limited. Some work has been done on the emotional effects of nomadic lifestyle on kids from the viewpoint of adults reflecting back (ref David Pollack). However few studies look systematically at expat family life, to analyze the whole family as an 'emotional unit ' (ref Murray Bowen ), including rigid roles for family members, power imbalance between husband and wives and kids and some of the complex emotional and practical issues that can arise for families. These unique vulnerabilities are hidden from mainstream society and there is a lack of experienced professional support available to help families adjust to their experiences. My presentation aims to raise awareness of the emotional impact for traditional nuclear families living as expats, through ‘snapshots’ from clinical work as well as from my lived experience raising family in Malawi, Australia, Vietnam, Indonesia, China and the U.S.A for over 25 years. The concept of 'third culture kids' will be explained with examples given of 'ambiguous losses' (ref Pauline Boss) they can experience as a result of nomadic lifestyles growing up. For instance loss that leaves a person searching for answers like 'Will I ever see my friends again ?', ' What do I stand for ?'and 'Where is my home?' can hamper a young person's development. My co-authored book 'Slurping Soup and other confusions : true stories and activities to help third culture kids during transition' is a collection of real life stories about third culture kids. The book uses the parent effectiveness framework (Thomas Gordon )Each story is followed by an 'action method' (ref Virginia Satir ) for parents to use with kids to help them explore their experiences of expat family life. A 'trailing wife' may have an impressive CV but is prepared to take time out of her career to support her husband's international career. This can be an opportunity for an adventure for some wives. Other women can develop a state of stress and discontent and feel unfullfilled and lacking in direction. She may relinquish too much power to maintain her 'sense of self' (re Betty Carter). Breadwinner is the sole financial support in a traditional family. In expat families major decisions can be based on the male career, a system that accentuates male privilege and entitlement. Macho culture can prevail leading some men into unethical territory. Snapshots are used to highlight these. Expat life is often perceived as ‘glamorous’ and on the surface it can be. However underneath the gloss, the lifestyle can take a significant emotional toll on families. There can be a kind of disenfranchised grief for expat families because the experiences of this ‘sub-culture’ remain largely hidden from mainstream society.",[48,249,250,253],{},[224,251,252],{},"Bio:"," Lucinda works as a family counsellor at Parentline, Victoria. She has a bachelor of education, post grad in social work and family therapy. 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